Oh my, the raisin is loose again! – By Ingrid Jackson

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In life, we are constantly faced with adversity and “discomforts”. Whether physically, spiritually or mentally, dealing with events in our lives which gets us out of our comfort zones, can be scary and daunting at times. However, it is those moments of despair, insecurities and sudden changes that evolves into the greatness of what is yet to come in our lives and who we become as a direct product of it.

These are the times when the very core of us, comes out to “play” in an attempt to pour out some of that energy which has hit us all at once and has disturbed us so much. Some of us cry, pout, have a hissy fit, scream, vlog, blog, write, have a glass of wine and ponder, call a friend, etc… I am guilty of all and then some! Although, I do refrain myself from calling family and friends, my thoughts are… who wants to really hear about this crap and besides everyone has their own problems to deal with!

I must say however, that lately, I have reached out in other forms, perhaps a bit crazy, but never the less very creative… totally me! NO APOLOGIES It is a personal manifesto of… What you see is what you get. However, if you are having a problem with dealing with it all, please refer to my last post, which gives you instructions on what to do next, titled… If you don’t like it, then STOP looking!

When facing adversity, once the mental torment which we impose on ourselves subsides, out comes the “creative” which grabs the problem like an organic, living piece of clay and the real work begins. We bend it, play with it, twist it and look at if from different directions until we have nothing short of a living work of art, something of our own creation. This always puts me at cause, giving me power to deal with it all. It all comes to a fearless conclusion that no matter what happens absolutely no one can rip me off from me. It is just freaking impossible! Isn’t that awesome?

People can say whatever they want, create problems in our lives, situations and unnecessary crap that we must now deal with, just because someone was having a crappy day! But that is okay, because it is that very “crap” as serious as it may be sometimes, that will now catapult me to the next chapter of my life, so, thank you “sweet person” who created a clusterfudge of endless crap for me to deal with now. So, when that is completely understood, it is on baby, let’s do THIS! Life is nothing but a giant playing field, it all becomes exciting again and I start looking forward to seeing where it is all going to take me.

The worst part of dealing with hard moments in life is the loneliness of it all, when you are a creative person who sees life outside the “circle” instead of the box, not many people will get you or God forbid understand you. Most will actually look at you, judge you, and even tell you that you are nuts. And that is okay too!

When you are a nut who knows it’s a raisin… well, not many people will get that!

However, it is those very people who make me laugh with content and happiness, make me feel warm and fuzzy inside, when later on they look at me and my work of art with dismay wondering… how did she do that? Then, they say, wow you are so lucky, I just don’t know how you do it… your life is PERFECT!

So, for those of you who are out there, getting your hands dirty, working on your own masterpiece and helping others create theirs, I love you and genuinely thank you. However, those of you who are sitting there, pointing fingers and judging others while doing absolutely nothing or thinking that you are better than everyone else, I invite you to create. But if not, that is fine too. I’ll just take off my hat, bow to you, wish you a fantastic day and let me start it by politely asking you to please fuck off!

Ingrid Jackson

And frankly, who gives a shit? – By Ingrid Jackson

Seems like nowadays, everywhere that I turn, someone is trying to tell me what to do, how to be, what to say,  what to believe in, who to love, how to lead my life, etc. It is true that most people do mean well and want “the best for you“ but sometimes meaning well and wanting me to be something or someone who I am not, just so the rest of the 6,840,507,003 other people in the world can feel comfortable with my presence in it, just does not ring right to me and frankly that makes me feel freaking uncomfortable. I mean, really, are you freaking kidding me? ( I am trying to be a lady here, but truth be told I did want to use the “F” word, feel free to fill in the blanks for me! )

I mean, it is okay to share your thoughts and findings with the world according to your own perception, there is NOTHING wrong with that. The problem lies in imposing those findings or ways of being on others. Then, having or trying to get the world to believe that if they do not follow suit that they are doomed, unaccepted and plainly treated like shit or third class citizens. All because supposedly you are not doing things “the right way“ and thus making  people feel awkward, undeserving, weird, unappreciated, abused, stupid, less than, etc… Doing this to other people is WRONG!

I mean who made anyone an authority in “being-ness?” You are who you are, period! The truth is that every single person on this planet is fighting the same fight, no exceptions. All we really need is love and acceptance, not someone barking at us telling us how to lead our lives! I think that it is great that some people think that they have it all figured out and you know what? Maybe they have and there is nothing wrong with sharing it. Hey, If your findings give you inner peace and purpose, then more power to you! What I have a problem with is when some people think that they know “how everything in the whole freaking universe works” and then want me to follow suit. My answer to that is a HUGE, NO Freaking WAY Jose!

I love being different and being around people who are different than I am. That is what makes life fun, adventurous and exciting. I love the differences in opinions, in ways of being, in backgrounds, skin color, religious beliefs, music, accents, flavors etc. True, there are some things that I do not like or tolerate about other people but that is because it is just the way I am, not because there is something wrong with others. Just because I feel uncomfortable with the way someone else is, that does not all of a sudden make my ways right, making me the epitome of perfection. I mean “how dare you?” And who the hell do you think you are to tell anyone how they should lead their lives? All because you think that you know “what is best for me and others” I mean really?

As long as you are not physically or mentally hurting others and stealing what they worked so hard to earn, I believe in live and let live. Why should I care about who you marry, what your religion is, your skin color, country of origin, etc? I want you to be you, now get out of my way and let me be me. I want to be able to enjoy my existence on this planet to the best of my ability in a way that I can be genuine, be able to celebrate who I am and not be ashamed of being me and I want the same for you.

If there are things about others that I do not like or the environment that they chose to be in,  instead of imposing that others change so I can feel better, I just remove myself from the presence of that individual or their environment, it is that simple! It would be erroneous and unfair for me to think that the world revolves around me, that everyone must change and must cater to me, so I can feel comfortable and safe. Every one has the right to be here and who the hell am I to tell anyone how to live their lives!

And frankly, who gives a shit? – By Ingrid Jackson

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